What does it mean to be a woman? Better yet, what does it mean to be a women today in our Westernized society? These are critical questions. Critical questions my mother challenged and empowered me to answer. Still her fighting voice ignites inside me.
Not everyone experiences a mother-daughter relationship. And not everyone who has experienced a mother-daughter relationship has the chance to experience a multiple generational mother-daughter relationship. I consider myself to be lucky.
In all the years I’ve wanted children I never envisioned having a girl first. I always pictured myself with a little boy. Most likely because I heard boys were “easier.” I don’t always jump up when something is deemed harder- even though time and time again I’ve learn it’s more rewarding.
Having a child has drastically changed my relationship to my parents, but having a girl specifically, has created a separate and special relationship to my mother. I’m not sure I can fully describe what that relationship looks like; however, I know it involves the meaning and importance of being a woman, mother, daughter, and friend.
When my mother looks into my eyes she can say a million things without saying one word. It’s as if now I truly see the woman she has been her whole life. Dedicated. Hardworking. Patient. Compassionate. Don’t get me wrong you can see those things without having a child, let alone a baby girl, but still somehow it’s different. When I look back into her eyes I feel lucky. Honored. Inspired. Understood. Complete. And now, it’s my turn to pass the flame.
Do you have a special relationship with someone? How has that relationship changed your life?