wordless wednesday: freckle

First Freckle. ❤

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Wordless Wednesday

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Monday Monologue: Moments escaping

Lately I’ve noticed Time escaping. Not its usual escape, a more-than-usual type of escaping. And, it’s more than just Time, it’s moments, memories, thoughts, and ideas.

I feel like I’m living one long, really long, day.
“What day is it again?”  Oh, Saturday. Oh, Tuesday.

See, those two particular days may be vastly different for you, but not for me.  They are virtually the same. Maybe it’s because I’m living as a minion in a Toddler’s world, or maybe it’s because I’m a stay-at-home mom.

I thought I would jot a couple of moments down here, before they too escape me…

  • (My brother-in-law proposed this past weekend).  The moment that I don’t want to escape me:  Seeing my (soon-to-be-new) sister Kelly, embrace her mother and father with the thought “I’m marrying the man of my dreams,” as tears of true happiness roll down her blushed cheeks.

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  • Reminiscing on my wedding and looking down at my wedding band to notice my grandmother’s diamond missing. And I was actually able in a moment to “let it go.”  It was a small diamond. It was a big bar.  Who knows when I could have lost it and where it could have been.
  • Kelly, the bride to be, finding my grandmothers diamond in less than 30 seconds, underneath her chair.
  • McKinley’s laughter as we chased each other up and down the hallway, playing hide and seek.
  • Seeing my husband this morning dressed for his first day at the firm. Handsome, Sharp, crisp, confident, excited… young, but older-looking, and ready. IMG_8604

What moments from this past weekend are you hoping don’t escape you? 

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Discipline Don’ts

If you’re a first time parent, or a parent of five children, learning how to discipline your children can be a tricky process to learn. How do you do it? Is one parent the good cop and the other the bad cop?

Applying multiple parenting strategies can allow us to be more well-rounded parents. Parenting isn’t black and white. We shouldn’t have to be the friend or the boss, we can be both. Strict and laid back.

Though it seems in the world of parenting we are critical of one another and our choices. But why? Why are we so divided? Is it because we’ve never actually grown up? Were we all not judged enough through adolescence? There’s no official rule book for parenting. Otherwise we would be boring.

I will say, when it comes to discipline however, abuse and neglect is never an option. No matter how angry or upset we get, we should never take our emotions out on our children. Verbal abuse is something parents can neglect to realize as harmful.

Have you ever screamed “Shut up!” or “Your dumb!”? These type of comments can be harmful to your children. I’ve had many clients recall verbal abuse growing up. It sticks. I get it, it’s hard when you’re trying your best and your tactics just don’t seem to work. It can be frustrating. We’ve all made mistakes as parents, but it’s our job to set an example. We need to practice stress management and learn to control and understand our emotions.

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  • Yell
  • Offer empty threats : Say what you mean, and mean what you say
  • Undermine your partner
  • Fail to set rules
  • Bribe:
  • Argue about consequences: Not up for negotiations
  • Compare
  • Spank
  • Cave in to whining
  • Set a bad example

 

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Monday Monologue

It’s freezing in Geneva, Ohio. We’re on the lake. Duh…of course it’s freezing in May.

McKinley has been throwing mini tantrums all morning, but only when we come back inside the cozy semi-warm cabin. Hardwood floors and heat blasting in every room, yet still there’s a chill in the air.

Yesterday, and the day we arrived in Geneva, McKinley turned 14-months-old. Jordan reminded me that she’s Disney close. Which means in like half a year she’ll be able to watch disney movies on repeat. We’re excited.

She loves being outside even if it’s 20 degrees colder. The sensory stimulation is fascinating. The wind blowing on her face, bright green blades of grass, and her favorite, birds chirping and flying around.

Mommy on the other hand (today anyways), prefers the semi-warm cabin. The blizzard like air is not appealing to an under-packed and under-prepared mother. Yup, coatless and possibly dumb. Oh well, I’m the baby today.

Jordan and McKinley are napping off breakfast from the best diner I’ve ever been too–they literally serve you full plates of sarcasm and good company. We’ll be returning tomorrow morning.

Me? Coffee in hand and cuddled in front of the fake furnace under my favorite Restoration Hardware blanket– iPhone typing my Monday monologue post.

Ahhhhhh Vacation.

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