Marriage/Partnership Exercise

Questions.

Asking your partner questions is critical for a long lasting loving marriage.  It’s important to communicate and to continue working on communication, because the truth is we can always become better communicators.

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The exercise is about listening. When my husband and I did this exercise it took us roughly 3-4hours. (Granted we were on a long train ride).  Briefly replying just to get through the exercise is not the point.

Here are some of the Questions we found most profound

  • What makes you happiest/most fulfilled as a woman/man?
  • What makes you happiest/most fulfilled as a wife/husband?
  • What makes you happiest/most fulfilled as a mother/father?
  • What makes you saddest as a woman/man?
  • What makes you saddest as a wife/husband?
  • What makes you saddest as a mother/father?
  • What do you fear the most?
  • What do you look forward to ?
  • How much sleep do you need?
  • What do you consider to be your skills?
  • What do you believe to be your spiritual gifts?
  • What are your weaknesses?
  • What things need repairing?
  • What chores/responsibilities do you like/need my help with?
  • What intimate things do you enjoy the most?  enjoy the least?
  • What action of mine provides you the greatest sexual pleasure?
  • What other things stimulate you sexually?
  • What times do you need my assurance of my love the most?
  • What can I do that will make it easier to discuss and work on areas or problems that are uncomfortable for you?
  • What concerns do you have that I do not seem interested in?
  • What desires do you have that we haven’t discussed?
  • What do you enjoy doing with me the most?
  • What things can I do that show my appreciation of you?
  • What varying desires (spiritual, physical, emotional, intellectual, social, worth, recreational, security..) would you like me to provide?
  • In what ways would you like me to sacrifice for you?
  • What things do you see by my actions that I place first in my life?
  • What concerns/interests of yours would you like me to support?
  • How much time would be good for us to spend together each day ?
  • What can I do that provides the greatest comfort and encouragement for you when you are hurt, fearful, anxious, or worried?
  • What ways demonstrate to you that you are a very important person who is as important or more important than I am?

To see the full list of questions visit Zack Terry’s Blog

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